I think barbell piercings on a woman’s nipples look incredibly hot. Seeing a pierced nipple is a total turn on. It can also be useful (note some of the photos on this post).
One day I will instruct SexFairy to have her nipples pierced. We both know it will hurt and have some healing time. To be fair, this is something I want. She wants it really just because I do.
Partly based on our differing feelings about having her nipples pierced, I recently posted this question on our Tumblr, theNaughtyspot.tumblr.com:
“Should HE make HER get her nipples pierced with barbells?”
Two of the responses are:
“mymptp answered: “MAKE” her? Oh, please.”
“wantinghim answered: “no….some things can be twisted, pinched, bitten, slapped and pulled. But if something is going “thru” them…its HER call.”
At first their responses bothered me. How dare they presume to tell me what I can or cannot do with my SexFairy? But then I realized, they just don’t understand.
A submissive is submissive because she wants to be. Of course she can end or change that at any time. I respect this gift she has given me, this gift of herself. As long as we are in agreement as to the definition of our relationship, where she is mine to do with as I please, I can tell her what to wear, how far to bend over, etc. She has already chosen to allow me to make these decisions, for both of us.
As the wonderful blogger Discerning Dom put it so well in his post What’s it all about?: “The question of whether she will let me do what I want has already been settled. She’s already agreed in advance. I’ve got carte blanche. Yes, of course there are limits; there are always limits. But that leaves a lot of space to work in….The real pleasure for me comes from knowing that she wants to surrender. There’s no pleasure whatsoever in spanking a girl who hates it. That’s not domination, that’s abuse.”
Anyone in a valid DOM/SUB relationship understands this.
S0, until she says otherwise, it’s MY decision, and YES I CAN MAKE HER, because she allows me to. Until she says otherwise, which I don’t think she will do. Because she loves being my SexFairy.
Ouch!
But so hot…
Oh no I completely get this, she has given herself freely, she wants to please you and be dominated by you. This is not just you excersizing your wants and desires it is about you taking the lead and pushing her boundries, taking her to places and highs she cannot get to alone.
As for the piercing, my Sir has muttered about this too, but I am really not keen, if he decided that he wanted it done, at this point in time I think that might get me saying my safeword.
Mollyxxx
I’m not opposed to piercings; I have a couple. Nipples has never been on my list of things to get pierced, but yes, if Whitman would enjoy it, I would happily do it.
People don’t understand that desire to do it for HIM, though…to let him decide. It’s totally up to him at this point.